Joseph Campbell tells us that, “Saying yes is a willingness to show up.” He talks about a ‘sacred yes’ which is about the big plan for our lives. What really resonates with me is that ‘it isn’t about ambition; it’s about purpose. It’s not about profit; it’s about passion. It’s not about self-gain; it’s about service.’ (Louise Hay & Robert Holden).
With all my many faults, the one thing I have never lacked is enthusiasm. Most of my life I have wanted to grab hold of every facet of life and shake the bones out of it, which hasn’t always worked in my favour. This has lead me to overuse my store of the word ‘YES’. “Could you attend this meeting?” Yes! “Could you fix this for me?” Yes! “Could you come and see me this Friday?” Yes! I even said yes to a couple of different marriage proposals which did not serve me. I fitted really well into Ado Annie’s song, “I’m just a girl who can’t say no!” Oh, not for the same reason – actually being brought up in a strict religious faith, I did say no a lot before I donned my first long, white dress.
I have been so busy saying YES for a great deal of my life, and have often run myself ragged. As I have matured – love that word – sounds like a good red wine – I have had to be more focused about when to say ‘YES’.
One of my grandsons once told me that I was “invincible”. I think at the time I believed him and whilst I had boundless energy I pursued the path of saying yes to many things. And the many times I said ‘yes’ only rarely gained me the outcome I desired.
It took me a long time to wake up that I was not always following my passion. So many times I dragged myself off to functions which had nothing to do with my passion. I always hoped that I would gain something but often came away with a feeling of emptiness.
These days, even though I have been blessed with more than my share of energy, I feel a need to be more selective and I have found that challenging as I receive so many invitations over the internet – all of which look enticing, often innovative, and organised by people I really admire, but they are not going to help me with my purpose or passion. Continue reading